At times, there come moments when your reality does not meet your expectations. I am my reality, and therefore, I become disappointed in myself when I have let somebody down. Being let down by somebody is a feeling of loss, frustration, and annoyance that affects your future with that person. I would never intend to let somebody down by agreeing to do something, however, committing to things that are less important to me but very important to someone I care about can seem like no big deal to me but seem like a very big deal to them.
In these times, the best thing to do is communicate my fear that they are upset so that I have the opportunity to apologize for hurting their feelings and they have the opportunity to forgive me and move on. Taking ownership for letting someone down is an important part of life and essential for any relationship to last.
I try to be thankful in these moments of shame when I experience what it feels like to be truly sorry for something so that I learn to be more careful in what I commit to and what I cancel in the future. Guilt is a terrible feeling because the longer I stay guilty, the longer someone else stays hurt. I want to ask for forgiveness from everyone I care about so that we can all be happier.
Peace&love
