I am currently without a committed romantic relationship and there are many guys out there who I consider as a possible future partner. There are many things that attract me to these men and once I have showed interest in one or solidified a connection with him by sharing my phone number or making a date, for example, it is hard to get the special someone off of my mind. It can be very frustrating when the reality does not live up to my expectations and it is challenging to keep faith in the original chemistry I felt when things seem to be moving slow.
I am old-fashioned in that I believe it is a man's job to make the first couple of dates. I believe a true gentleman should ask the woman he is interested in to dinner, follow up with the plan to ensure it takes place, and treat his lady for the night. When something in this pattern falls out of line or it does not happen on the timeline that I expect (within a week or two), I immediately assume I did something wrong to turn him away. It is important, however, to remain secure with my actions and trust that he felt like he could not live up to my standards or he really just does not know how to treat a lady and, in that case, does not live up to my standards. In both of these cases, I must choose to either let him go or to give up my expectations and make something happen in my own way, like by asking him to go to dinner instead of waiting for him to take the initiative. Simply having trust in myself and my standards, however, will ensure
that the right one finds me and shows that he wants to keep me.
There are always more great available guys looking for great available gals. People who are in love always say "when the right one comes along, you just know". Thus, if a love interest does not feel right, it probably isn't. It is best to let it go as soon as possible and move on, for it is more likely that I will find the right guy if I am open to a new love rather than if I am down because I am so focused on what an old one didn't like about me.
