As little girls, Daddy is the figure we look to love. We watch him love Mommy, and we dream of having a man just like him. The traits that Daddy possesses are the ones girls look for when we start looking for our own man to love.
Unfortunately, not all girls are lucky enough to have a father who openly loves. Some men marry women for their money, thinking her parents will support the family and he will not have to work to provide. Some men cheat on their wives, thinking that she is enjoying herself on vacation with the kids and won't notice the lingerie his prostitute left in his wife's armoire. Some men also have perverted and violent tendencies. These can be taken out on both wives and children.
When a girl has a dad who possesses traits like the ones described above, these are what she instinctually looks for in a mate. These are men that hurt her, however, and leave her feeling as wounded as her mother felt by the soulless treatment of her father.
As a girl with a poor father, I have found that it is important to recognize this fact and make a point to seek a man who possesses traits that my father does not, as unnatural as that may feel at first. I never want to suffer the abandonment, fear, or hopelessness that women who marry devilish men experience. Most importantly, however, I will do everything in my power to ensure that my children have parents who serve as role models.
Nobody can fake being a father. Therefore, a man who lacks the character of a true gentleman does not deserve the privilege of having a little girl in his life, even if he has already created her.
